{"id":5003,"date":"2016-08-12T06:10:07","date_gmt":"2016-08-12T06:10:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mesajedelasine.wordpress.com\/?p=5003"},"modified":"2021-06-18T16:21:13","modified_gmt":"2021-06-18T16:21:13","slug":"a-fi-sau-a-nu-fi-eva-focus-pe-relatii-si-cum-le-putem-salva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nicoletaghiris.ro\/en\/2016\/08\/12\/a-fi-sau-a-nu-fi-eva-focus-pe-relatii-si-cum-le-putem-salva\/","title":{"rendered":"To be or not to be... Eva, focus on relationships and how we can save them."},"content":{"rendered":"

\"image\"It is easy to understand that we live in a society where relationships are important to all of us. However, what I observe is a violation of some basic principles within them. Let's take, for example, the relationship between heterosexual spouses or partners. We loudly proclaim that we are unhappy in a relationship, and I'm sure that might be the case. It is possible that we are attracted to a mirror person who gives us the opportunity to balance certain energies that we don't like in the other person, energies that we ourselves possess without being aware of it. But where we start to make mistakes and are harshly criticized is when we fail to attempt self-discovery in order to begin understanding.<\/p>\n

We often skim over articles or writings on this topic, or perhaps we claim to understand, but in the next second, we fail to apply anything we have understood.<\/p>\n

This is my personal opinion on relationships, and I have no problem if you don't share it. We look at a natal chart and observe that a person possesses yang energy in their chart, and due to this, we conclude, as shared by that person, that they act according to this masculine principle. The problem lies in balancing this principle, and if that person is a woman, it becomes twice as difficult to understand and act in a way that successfully balances the impulses that stem from this energy.<\/p>\n

Often in relationships, I observe how women declare that they are unhappy, and in my humble opinion, we are unhappy because we violate the principles of this world. We are meant to relate correctly, with one person following the yin principle and the other following the yang principle. As the saying goes, if a couple doesn't get along, \"they clash like two swords in one sheath.\" What does this popular wisdom mean? It means that we should understand and not violate these principles.<\/p>\n

From the beginning, I want to make it clear that I am not a feminist, nor will I ever be. I understand the strengths and weaknesses of both men and women, and I am even happy when I come across couples who respect the proportions of yin and yang energies.<\/p>\n

If you are a woman and completely unhappy in your relationship, I urge you to introspect and analyze where you might be making mistakes, without expecting all the unhappiness to be caused by the other person. Check your reactions, which often exceed the boundary of the energy you came here for.<\/p>\n

We are not women or men in our lives by chance. So, why not try to understand this energy that we came here for? If you are a woman and you possess yang energy, then don't expect your partner, who is inherently yang, even if he may choose not to express it, to feel invaded by you, the one who wants to take his place in the relationship (perhaps without realizing it).<\/p>\n

My dear ones, let's not forget that \"when life gives you lemons, make lemonade.\" I have said it before, and I repeat, expectations kill any relationship. Take what you need from it and move on. However, if you are a woman living with a man who is aggressive, with yang energy manifesting to the extreme, try to understand that the mirror might be reflecting something that you possess within you, a suppressed aggression that needs to be understood by you. I'm not saying that it's normal to experience such a thing. The choice is yours. What we must understand is that we are the ones who need to balance things; we shouldn't expect the other person to do it. If we chose to violate the primordial principle and let the energy we decided to leave govern our existence, then that is the consequence.<\/p>\n

Women's emancipation and the consideration of equality in rights are things that have brought or can bring us independence, which is important. It is good to be equal in attending the same schools, holding the same positions in society, and so on. An independent woman is free to choose how her life unfolds, not constrained by material or other limitations that force her to coexist because there is no other way to survive.<\/p>\n

Lately, we have witnessed a demand in the \"relationship market\" for strong women. However, we fail to understand that in the minds of those who choose such a thing, the thought of independence prevails, the thought of having a woman who doesn't depend entirely on their opinions, and that's all. The man who desires a strong woman (yang) also desires a woman whom he can conquer every moment (yin). Excesses in any direction attract unhappy or sad partners. For those of you who are strong in society, it is good to manifest those attributes there, but in your relationships and home life, it is important to maintain the balance of yin and yang.<\/p>\n

With the hope that I have been understood, or at least provoked some thoughts, I embrace you with good intentions. If you know someone who might need these words, please share them.<\/p>\n

Photo source: the internet<\/p>\n

With love,<\/p>\n

Nicoleta Ghiris<\/p>\n

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